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The morning of your wedding, things will be a little chaotic. No matter how you prepare, how much you do the night before, how much you plan, wedding mornings are just crazy. There are things that simply cannot happen until the day of & suddenly everything is set into motion. All the trains and cars and cabooses have been set on the track and suddenly everything is rolling.
That craziness can send a bride one of several ways: into full blown bridezilla mode (which, let’s be honest, no one, including the bride, wants this to happen), into crazy work mode (rolling up her sleeves and working thru problems instead of enjoying the process that is a wedding morning), into laid back I-don’t-care mode (so much is happening, it’s so overwhelming, it’s easier to just roll over and play dead).
Then there are the brides who’s personalities are just so relaxed that nothing can shake them, and they are like solid rocks of happiness on their wedding day. Rain? No problem. Wardrobe malfunctions? It’ll make a funny story later. Missing guests? They’ll find their way somehow. Earrings left at the salon? Just borrow someone else’s. The limo is late? Well, the wedding can’t start without me!
No matter how relaxed you are though, as you get closer and closer to the big ceremony moment, jitters will arise. And here’s the deal: deep down, every bride (no matter her personality) wants to enjoy the wedding morning process.
So, what game plan can you set into place to start out on the right foot & calm those wedding day jitters?
Here are my top 5 ways to help keep the mood light, to enjoy the fleeting moments, and squash those anxiety bugs before they grow too large to get under foot!
Eat Something
Can you believe that most wedding mornings fly by & the bride doesn’t eat anything? It’s like, prepping for a marathon on a completely empty stomach! Even the worst athletes know that you have to put good fuel in your body if you expect it to perform for you – and the same goes for a wedding day. I don’t know about you? But when I get hungry – I get grumpy! So, save yourself a case of the grumpies, and make sure you get something to eat! Have someone bring in hoagies, prepare snacks the night before, hit up a drive-thru – whatever needs to happen to get some food in your system – do it!
Play Music
There is this amazing little tool – it’s called Spotify – ever heard of it? If you aren’t actively using Spotify (and on a daily basis) you are missing out! The ability to play any song an unlimited number of times is just – wow. Do yourself a favor, and create a playlist of your most favorite songs on Spotify! Go ahead, do a mix of sappy love songs, pumped up songs, Disney songs, songs from your teenage years, songs that make you think of your soon-to-be hubby, dance songs – everything! Then, come your wedding morning, you have a DJ in your pocket and all you have to do is set it up to shuffle and wa-la – instant mood-changer!
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Good Friends
It goes without saying that your best friends will be by your side as your bridesmaids and they will be getting ready with you. Here’s the deal though, they may not exactly know what that means. They may not be all educated up on the duties of a good bridesmaid, so you might have to tell them. It’s so much more than just wearing a pretty dress & walking down the aisle in front of the bride! If your friends don’t know what they should be doing the morning of the wedding, feel free to tell them! Ask them for their help, instruct them how they can help you, and above all, feed off of their good energy! They know you better than anyone, so encourage them to laugh and make jokes, and have tissues ready when the tears fall!
First Look
I know, it’s completely untraditional, and my Mother hates them, but seriously, the best way to calm any wedding day anxiety is to see the person you love so much. You are marrying them for a reason, right? No one can calm you down and light you up like they can. And trust me, as a bride who did a first look on her wedding day, it was like I could breathe again. Just being able to see him and genuinely react (without 200 pairs of eyes staring at you) and hug him – whew – that makes all the butterflies go away!
Invisible First Look
Okay, so say you are super traditional and simply cannot see each other before the ceremony. But you really want all the “effects” of a first look – what do you do? Do an invisible one! Meet at a corner or around a door and hold hands. Just a little touch will help so much. Plus, being able to talk and make sure everything is okay on his end is so so helpful. You spend weeks, months, even years planning this huge ordeal, and then suddenly you’re behind closed doors while it’s all set into motion. The groom can reassure you that everything is fine, y’all can squeeze each other’s hands, and then deep breath – the ceremony can begin.
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